Sunday, August 24, 2008

....oh...and Happy Anniversary!

About fourteen and a half years ago, SHE...
met HE.... a very respectable drinking and eating establishment. (oh yes it was!!!) Even though SHE spoke very little Japanese and he spoke even less English, he had a car and liked to take drives it was a very special relationship from the very beginning.
(Actually....this picture is from the second night they met. There were no pictures documenting the "first meeting"....and that's a good thing...they could probably be used for blackmailing purposes. Let's just say that SHE had been partying pretty strong with her very special foreign, gay friend...they met the HE...both thought HE was pretty cute...there was an intense game of "Rock, Paper, Scissors" when it was discovered that he was one is really sure who won. Since the HE doesn't play for "that team", I got him.)
So SHE and HE spent a lot of time getting to know each other...searching for words in the dictionary...driving all over the island (or so it seemed to her!!)...and laughing...always laughing and having a very good time.

Even though SHE had only met her a couple of times, his mother was kind enough to make a yukatta, a summer kimono for her.
Since high school, HE has always been in a band and hung out with other musician-type people. Even though SHE pretty much sings for crap (IMHO), HE and some of those friends decided to make a band for a "one time only show. (Thank you, Jesus, for that!!) SHE didn't really want to do this, but HE was pretty damn persuasive and SHE thinks that HE still owes her big time for this!!! (That's HE on the keyboard.)

Along with taking many drives.....HE and SHE would also go to concerts and other types of musical shows. One of their favorites was a reggae concert they went to. The met up with many friends of them had just a. bit. too. tight. of. a. grip on him. But SHE understood how charming HE could be and let the bitch the friend off the hook. SHE also knows that HE understands that SHE feels she needs to {{hug}} most everyone she knows. HE and SHE had a pretty damn good relationship!!! day...while on a drive on a cold February day....HE and SHE had stopped for some hot coffee and steamed bread....without any kind of warning whatsoever, HE informed her that HE thought they should get married. SHE, not really realizing that this is where the relationship was going, (Really, SHE didn't!! Actually, SHE never really saw herself as ever married...a mom, yes, but married? No.) couldn't answer for about 35 kilometers...and then SHE finally came out of her shocked daze and mumbled that SHE would marry him.

So....on August 24, 1996, in a small church in her hometown in Colorado, HE and SHE got married. It was, to say the least, an interesting wedding.

First of all....SHE was escorted down the her mother.

(Can't imagine where SHE got her smile, can you??)

It was....a colorful day.

To sum up the day very quickly.....

(a) there were usherettes, not ushers...three girls SHE loves dearly

(b) SHE has too many friends and couldn't decide who would be the lucky ones to stand up with her....and HE didn't want to put a financial burden on any friends to come and join them, (they also had a BIG party in September, here in Nagasaki.) instead, they had "Best Men" and asked the two most special men (besides HE, of course) in her life to stand up with them. (Still wondering where that one on the right was looking at and what was going on!!)

(c) SHE had 3 very cute nephews and one cousin who were the "Matsuri Boys" ('festival boys') (d) the two absolutely darling candle lighters belong to one of SHE's BFFs (who also did the flowers!!)...SHE loves those girls and their mom dearly! and

(e) HE was quite tickled that the minster came to the wedding with jeans on under his robe and cowboy boots.

All in was a very wonderful day.

And 12 years later....HE and SHE are doing quite nicely....they still drive all over the island, but now with Son #1 and Son #2 tucked safely in the back seat. HE still doesn't speak much English (but HE understands a lot)...SHE should be much better at Japanese, but....HE understands what SHE is trying to say (most times)...and it is still a pretty damn, good relationship.



Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

Happy Anniversary!

I love the way you told the story.

It's hard to contemplate being married to someone who doesn't speak your language well--I'd love to see it in action someday.

smalltownmom said...

Great pictures and story! Happy Anniversary!

Karen MEG said...

Happy Anniversary Debbie, this was the sweetest post! I loved the photos and the narrative. It just goes to show that true love has no barriers (language included).

You are such a cute couple. I think it's hilarious that you did R,P,S with your friend over the man... too funny!

It's our wedding anniversary on the 28th; August is a very nice time of the year ;)

AP said...

that was a wonderful story! Happy Anniversary sis!

Ginaagain said...

Debbie, that was a beautiful, modern day fairytale, happily ever after, story. I loved the pictures too. You both look like you belonged together from the beginning. Happy Anniversary!

Moxy Jane said...

That is the sweetest story! I'm so happy for you both. I love the photos, too...and that your minister also looks a wee bit like Jesus! Your wedding party was just awesome.

Mr. Marvel and I will celebrate our 14th anniversary next month. Sometimes it feels like we speak two different languages, but we still manage to figure things out in the end!

Happy Anniversary and here's to many, many more!

Moxy Jane

ps...some of our favorite things to do were driving around and going to concerts!!

Nancy said...

Such a sweet love story. Great way to post it ... Happy 12th Anniversary!

Ciara said...

Awh thats such a sweet story.
Happy anniversary!


Peggy Sez.. said...

Geez!! I was here Sunday,Read your story,Thought..AWWWW How Sweet.Then left to do something else and TOTALLY forgot to comment.
I AM a bad blogging friend. :(

Happy Belated Anniversary

Bad Blogging Fiend..Er I mean Friend

hulagirlatheart said...

Happy Annivesary! I love a good romance. Great story, and I love the pic of the wedding party. So colorful!

Helena said...

Happy Anniversary! I love the fact that it's possible to have a strong relationship although there is a language barrier. Well, I guess by now (like you say) you just understand what the other person means.

Susan said...

Happy Anniversay! I never knew the whole story about how you guys met. It's one for the books! You both are so young looking.

And I had forgot your mom used to wear her hair longer!

Anonymous said...

Happy Anniversary..What a cute couple. Just have to know what you got each other for gifts. Mine was Aug. 14th...I got a skillet and it has only been 4 years...Hmmmmmm.
Luv ya guys

The Girl Next Door said...

WOW this story is so amazing! And Cute! And I am totally impressed how you have grown together despite "technical difficulties" - Happy Anniversary!

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ms-teacher said...

Congrats to the both of you. I loved reading your love story. Here's to many more very happy years!

Sojourner said...

Belated Happy Anniversary! This is my first stop at your blog. I am a little behind on my reading (as well as writing). I love a good love story. I loved thi pics. I love the tenacity of love and the human spirit which can overcome even language!

Anonymous said...

Aww, Happy Anniversary!

I wonder if the language barrier is really a blessing? I think things would be easier if I didn't always understand everything my husband said!

Janet said...

Happy Anniversary! Ahhh...I'd like one of those, please :-)

apathetic bliss said...

What a wonderful love story!

3rdEyeMuse said...

big smiles for such a wonderfully fun anniversary story & huge congratulations to you both! ...

... and many, many thank you's for the "otsusukarasamadeshita". I really like the word and it's loosely translated meaning. :)

musing said...

A very happy anniversary to you both! I loved reading your story. :)

Manager Mom said...

Aww... happy anniversary! Great couples always have great stories. And I covet that kimono.