Saturday, June 05, 2010

it's nice to know the 'tween in our house can play more cards than the "surly card"....

....and we will be oh so very happy when he loses that damn surly card.

We are living with a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde of emotional angst.  It's quite amazing to observe, actually....one minute, he will be smiling, laughing, messing around with Koji or me outside, but he takes one step inside the house and something almost evil-like takes over.  The rest of us are trying to keep our senses of humors about us, but....it is trying.
That is why, when we have moments of sunshine--moments of fun and laughter, we really do appreciate them...and try to keep them in our short term memory so we can bring them out whenever we need them.

I'm the first person to wake up in the mornings.  The other day, as with most days, I don't really focus on anything until I can smell the coffee brewing.  I usually stand and watch...and listen...and smell the wonderful aroma coming from that wondrous machine.  I wait.  I usually think about the day's schedule, what I have to do...or I think about events of the previous night.  That particular previous night had not been a pretty one.  I was tired....the K-Man was tired...even Koji was not feeling his usual genki-happy self.  Issei was the icing on the cake, coming in from club later than he normally does and was just pissed off personified.

The night did not go well.  A good night's sleep had helped me to feel a little better about the whole evening.  I was mentally preparing for the new day and trying not to dwell on the one before.
As I waited for the coffee to finish doing its thing, I turned around and saw this....on the table, at Issei's place:

When he woke up, I asked Issei about the flamingos. 
He told me, "I got up to go to the toilet and couldn't get back to sleep, so I did it for you.
It's SuMingo."
I just said, "Thank you for that. I love it." and finished getting breakfast on the table.
As he was eating, I walked around behind him, kissed him on the top of the head and ruffled up his hair.
He ducked his head and smiled.
That was enough to carry me through a few more Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde moments that will probably come.

I have to learn to be more patient with him, for I know that within this  Issei....
(who looks very nice in his summer uniform!)
....is this little boy....
...and he'll soon be loving his Mom and everyone else again..of this I am sure. 
I just have to be more patient and pull those 'good moments' from my short term memory more often.
 If you have a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde in your life, may today be a good day...for you all.

10 comments:

Janet said...

I was like Issei when I was a kid...and it did pass...but I'm sure it was very hard on my parents!

Jason, as himself said...

Thank you for that. I have a few of his type in my family. It makes for great family dinners. :)

Surly. Such a good word.

San said...

Gotta learn to roll w/the ups and downs of tweens/teens. I always said my kids drove me crazy so I wouldn't miss them so much when they moved out. =:-}

San said...

Oh, and those flamingos, glad you clarified they were wrestling

Susan said...

Oh boy, do I remember, Lindsey was like a roller coaster. Up one minute,and down the next. Marcus was so even tempered, like me. You will, I promise, look back and laugh about this!

smalltownmom said...

Ah, Surly. Then there's Snotty, Bitchy, Grouchy, Touchy, Pissy, and Awful. The seven evil dwarves of teendom.

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

That's wonderful that he did that.

By soon do you mean about three years? 'Cause that's my experience. Sorry.

Shellie said...

Remember your own tweendom and the ups and downs you went thru. Can you imagine how it would be in this day and age to go thru all that again. I think I will stick with the 70's and tweendom. I have to admit tho my boys were actually pretty even keel.

Shellie said...

Remember your own tweendom and the ups and downs you went thru. Can you imagine how it would be in this day and age to go thru all that again. I think I will stick with the 70's and tweendom. I have to admit tho my boys were actually pretty even keel.

Hula Girl at Heart said...

Oh, how I hate the surly card. We are past the tween years, and I'm glad. They were difficult. Frankly, once we got past fourteen, life got a lot better in our house. Hang in there. They do emerge from surley, but not after they've made you surley for about four years.

He does look very handsome in his uniform.